Some people feel that their weddings are a way to express themselves and in many ways “force” their views on others. For example, a couple that is vegetarian or vegan may choose to not offer meat as a meal choice and, in the process, subject everyone at the wedding to their dietary practices whether their guests like it or not. Likewise, someone who is not a sports fan is unlikely to check the sports calendar prior to scheduling a wedding. I went to a wedding thrown on the opening weekend of college football. The couple did not care for football or sports in general, something which is understandable. However, just because someone is not interested in something such as football should not result in everyone at the wedding suffering.
After the ceremony, there was the expected awkward hour or two where strangers are expected to act as though they are interested in one another and to pretend that these awkward interactions are actually fun. Since the reception was being held at a country club, there were televisions throughout the establishment, especially in the bar area. They were all off. When someone asked if a certain game could be turned on, the bartender stated that the couple had specifically requested that the televisions be left off. This request was infuriating and unreasonable for several reasons. This request assumed that everyone would be more interested in speaking with one another than watching a huge college football matchup. This assumption could not have been more wrong since strangers almost never get excited to speak to one another. Additionally, the request had no bearing on the couple since the couple was off engaging in picture taking while the televisions were being kept off. They were not in the reception area and being ignored in favor of a big college football game; they weren’t even there! Their request resulted in guests being annoyed for no true reason.
Eventually, a group of people, myself included, decided to take turns streaming the game through an app and put a phone on a table so that people could watch the game. Shockingly (sarcasm fully intended), within minutes of the news spreading that someone was streaming a game, the table became the first to receive appetizers from the wait staff and collected quite a crowd of onlookers who clearly felt that watching a football game was more entertaining than the awkward small talk that always occurs during the downtime between the ceremony and the reception.
I can see the response to this post already. It will be something along the lines of how it is “mean” to go against the wishes of the bride and groom on their wedding day. However, there is a flipside to this argument: it is evil and unnecessary for a bride and groom to force people to adhere to their unreasonable and illogical demands such as demanding that a game not be shown when the bride and groom are not even in the area. Regardless of the wishes of a bride and groom, a rivalry game or feature matchup will always be more interesting than engaging in small talk for two hours with random people. Everyone has a phone; hoping that the wedding will magically become a sports-free zone for the duration of the wedding is unreasonable and is doomed to fail. Ultimately, classic matchups like Alabama/LSU or Ohio State/Michigan were there before the couple getting married and will be there far after the couple divorces or passes away. Trying to fight this tradition with a weak weapon such as asking that televisions be turned off is a losing battle that will only cause greater annoyance for all involved.
A little something to remember as college football bowl and playoff season nears and the NFL playoff picture takes shape.
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